77% of employees report being burned out on the job. They’re fried – are you?
We have thousands of clients who report being less stressed after understanding what they are doing to mess up their life. When we are frustrated, most of us are quick to blame the frustration on others … the boss, the customers, the driver in the next lane … the list is long. It is also not helpful.
It turns out that looking in the mirror is the most helpful place to look. After more than 25 years of coaching executives on their leadership communications, we know this to be true – you don’t know how you’re coming across to others.
When you are more aware of your impact and take responsibility to make it better, we see incredible improvements in people’s lives and their level of stress.
The better you understand your part in your life that you own, the more control you have in your life and your work. Being more aware of nuances and subtle mannerisms you’re projecting can make a big impact on both sides of the relationship. Think about every communication from the other person’s viewpoint. How many times have you heard the phrase, “It’s not what you say, it is how you say it.”
We often hear the excuse, “I am so busy, I don’t have time to listen to …” and they wonder why others do not listen to them or do not support them. If that describes you … stop right now and find your problem in the mirror.
Almost everyone thinks they are busy … not just you. Get more of what you want with less stress by:
- Listening for meaning and showing your interest in your face and response
- Having a greater awareness of the other person’s point of view to be far more effective in various situations
- Being more aware of your body language and what it projects
- Managing the inflection and emphasis pattern in your voice differently to say what you mean and mean what you say
You will be less stressed and those around you will appreciate it … maybe they will be less stressed too.
Most who make the commitment to do these things find they like what they do better and get more done with less stress. If you need to place blame … put yourself at the top of the list.