We feel blessed at Change Masters to be able to make a real difference in the world by our day-to-day work. We hear often how people’s lives are changed at work and at home, but there are times when we get a message that really stands out. A recent example is:
“You saved our marriage – neither of us was in a place we wanted to be, and we didn’t know how to get to the next step on how to communicate better to break through the place we had gotten to. That first night I was home (after Change Masters Discovery Session) I tried asking more questions about where my wife was at, and my wife blushed! When I asked her why, she said, “It’s been so long since you were actually interested in what I have to say!” It opened the door for us to see a counselor and since then we have made significant progress with more open dialogue and actually talking. We’re being transferred to a new city, so it’s been incredibly important to learn how to communicate before we experience that stress. It never would have happened without Change Masters.”
It is a humbling message for us and yet we have heard many similar stories. The communication skills that make you successful at work also impact your personal life. Both are about relationships and truly connecting with others.
A part of our individual coaching process includes collecting extensive feedback from work associates on communication and leadership skills. Often after reviewing survey results with their spouse, our clients hear, “I have been saying that for years. You could have saved a lot of money if you had just listened to me.” Obviously, hearing the feedback and knowing what to do about it are two different things (that’s our skill.)
Everyone has room to improve as a listener. It is most important with those we love and need the most. Too often we take those key people in our lives for granted. This client example shows the power of making one really sincere and humble attempt at truly listening. It changed the trajectory of their marriage. I would like to challenge you to commit to really listen to a loved one at least once each week.
Let me know how it turns out!